Domestic Violence Survivors Speak out to the Hmong Community


Beside Doua Chee Vang (on previous article), Mylee Thao and Adrea Bennett Xiong, domestic violence survivors, speaks out their past experience on domestic violence on September 7, 2013 during the soul release for PaNhia Vue who was killed and burned at Altoona, WI on  June 10, 2013.

A nationwide events held on the same day to address and put a stop to domestic violence in the Hmong community by Hmong activist in Wisconsin, California, Florida, and Washington.

Click here to watch Mylee Thao speaks out her past experience on domestic violence.

Click here to watch Adrea Bennett Xiong speaks out her past experience on domestic violence.

Click here to the article of Doua Chee Vang and a link to her video.

What is Domestic Violence?

Domestic violence can be defined as a pattern of behavior in any relationship that is used to gain or maintain power and control over an intimate partner.

Abuse can be physical, sexual, emotional, economic or psychological actions or threats of actions that influence another person. This includes any behaviors that frighten, intimidate, terrorize, manipulate, hurt, humiliate, blame, injure or wound someone.

Domestic violence can happen to anyone of any race, age, sexual orientation, religion or gender. It can happen to couples who are married, living together or who are dating. Domestic violence affects people of all socioeconomic backgrounds and education levels.

You may be in an emotionally abusive relationship if your partner:
Calls you names, insults you or continually criticizes you
Does not trust you and acts jealous or possessive
Tries to isolate you from family or friends
Monitors where you go, who you call and who you spend time with
Does not want you to work
Controls finances or refuses to share money
Punishes you by withholding affection
Expects you to ask permission
Threatens to hurt you, the children, your family or your pets
Humiliates you in any way

You may be in a physically abusive relationship if your partner has ever:
Damaged property when angry (thrown objects, punched walls, kicked doors, etc.)
Pushed, slapped, bitten, kicked or choked you
Abandoned you in a dangerous or unfamiliar place
Scared you by driving recklessly
Used a weapon to threaten or hurt you
Forced you to leave your home
Trapped you in your home or kept you from leaving
Prevented you from calling police or seeking medical attention
Hurt your children
Used physical force in sexual situations

You may be in a sexually abusive relationship if your partner:
Views women as objects and believes in rigid gender roles
Accuses you of cheating or is often jealous of your outside relationships
Wants you to dress in a sexual way
Insults you in sexual ways or calls you sexual names
Forces or manipulates you into to having sex or performing sexual acts
Holds you down during sex
Demands sex when you’re were sick, tired or after hurting you
Hurts you with weapons or objects during sex
Involves other people in sexual activities with you against your will
Ignores your feelings regarding sex

If you answered ‘yes’ to these questions you may be in an abusive relationship. Please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233), 1-800-787-3224 (TTY) or your local domestic violence center to talk with someone about it.